I am currently reading a book called “The Highly Sensitive Child” by Dr. Elaine Aron, and I’m hooked.
According to Aron, sensitivity is a genetic trait that is present in approximately 20% of all children. This trait has survived evolution for a reason. In other words, we NEED this trait to survive in order for our society to improve. In our crazy, fast-paced, digital world, nonsensitives have been thriving because they can handle it. They can handle stressful work environments, unreasonable deadlines, and overstimulation. HSPs, on the other hand, are being pushed to the sidelines because we are more thoughtful, we don’t make decision as quickly because we marinate on the questions longer, and we need a calmer work environment.
In reality, both sensitive and nonsensitive people are needed in every profession. So, it’s essential that, those who have sensitive children, understand how their brains work. It’s so important that sensitive children grow up feeling confident and loved, so they can spread their gifts to the world when they grow up. The world needs more sensitivity in order to balance out the insensitivity that dominates.
Sensitive children tend to have more tantrums than nonsensitive children. That’s because they feel so much–they need an outlet to release their emotions. Here is a tool that can be used with sensitive children (or any children, really) who become worked up. It’s called a calming jar. When a child becomes too worked up and emotional to function, squat down to their level and talk to them in a calm voice. Tell them that they’re going to take a break. Tell them to breathe deeply, and practice taking deep breaths with them. When you feel they’re calmed down a bit, give them the calming jar, and let them sit and shake the jar. Watching the colored liquid and glitter will calm them down.
Here is another link to an anti-anxiety kit for kids. This is brilliant and could be used for any age.
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